REGRET IS YOUR ENEMY

PART 1.

Regret can be defined as a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over an occurrence or something that one has done or failed to do. It is usually about something in the past.

Regret looks normal and looks as part of human lives. It appears as a natural emotion, but regret is your enemy. Regret is an evidence that you are looking backwards. Almost everyone has something to regret about, your past mistakes, wasted time, wasted opportunities, missed opportunities, failures, wasted money, wasted relationships, wasted energy, wrong activities. These are things in your past that regret wants to take advantage of and give you a bad feeling and bad emotions. But you can’t change the past. No matter how much you look back.

I’m not saying your past mistakes or misdeeds becomes good if you don’t regret, what you need is to learn from them, keep the lessons, but cancel every other thing. Cancel the bad feelings, cancel the negative emotions, cancel the temptation to regret. Just move forward. Don’t spend time in regret. What you don’t understand is that, even your failures and mistakes are actually instruments for your success. So many people succeed because they failed. So many eventually excel because they made mistakes. Imagine a footballer sitting down to keep thinking and regretting about a game they lost? No way, next week they are back in the field to play again. Thats how Messi and Ronaldo has been winning Ballon D’ Or. That’s the way to progress. Just keep moving forward. Those mistakes give you lessons that you can pick and move forward. Just stand up, dust yourself and go again. This time you are wiser. Never look back.

Regret saps your energy, makes you keep looking backwards and nobody moves forward looking backwards. Regret weakens you. That feeling, that emotion, that bad thoughts, that depression, that wondering in your past is called regret and it is your enemy. Whenever you remember something bad about your past, thank God for it. Whatever didn’t kill you made you stronger. Whatever didn’t destroy you, God can use it for your good. Don’t entertain regret.

I will tell us more about this deadly enemy next week in part 2.

Thank you.

DANIEL A. EKEH